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Her Fearful Symmetry by Audrey Niffenegger

Her Fearful Symmetry by Audrey Niffenegger Her Fearful Symmetry by Audrey Niffenegger

When Elspeth Noblin dies of cancer, she leaves her London apartment to her twin nieces, Julia and Valentina. These two American girls never met their English aunt, only knew that their mother, too, was a twin, and Elspeth her sister. Julia and Valentina are semi-normal American teenagers–with seemingly little interest in college, finding jobs, or anything outside their cozy home in the suburbs of Chicago, and with an abnormally intense attachment to one another.

The girls move to Elspeth’s flat, which borders Highgate Cemetery in London. They come to know the building’s other residents.

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There is Martin, a brilliant and charming crossword puzzle setter suffering from crippling Obsessive Compulsive Disorder; Marjike, Martin’s devoted but trapped wife; and Robert, Elspeth’s elusive lover, a scholar of the cemetery. As the girls become embroiled in the fraying lives of their aunt’s neighbors, they also discover that much is still alive in Highgate, including–perhaps–their aunt, who can’t seem to leave her old apartment and life behind.Niffenegger weaves a captivating story in Her Fearful Symmetry about love and identity, about secrets and sisterhood, and about the tenacity of life–even after death.
Scribner; First Edition edition (September 29, 2009)

Book Club Ideas


Her Fearful Symmetry is essentially a ghost story, so ghosts definitely need to be present for this book club party. I hung a girl ghost and the Little Kitten of Death from my ceiling fan with fishing wire. The ghosts were made with balloons. I used a tall kitchen trash bag for the girl ghost and a small kitchen trash bag for the Little Kitten of Death.

girl balloon ghost Little Kitten of Death

Here is a creepy youtube video on Highgate Cemetery. This video provides the perfect atmospheric slideshow and music for your party. It is set to continuously loop, so just play in full screen and let it go.

Book Club Menu

Martin rarely ventured from his flat, so ordering out for pizza was a necessity for Martin once Marijke left for Denmark.

Pizza is a favorite party food. Top your Her Fearful Symmetry pizza with little ghosts (provolone cheese slices) and place the fully cooked pizza under the broiler for a minute or two. Take out pizza is great or check out our pizza recipes if you’d rather make your own.

Ghost Pizza

Ghostly strawberries are created by dipping fresh strawberries in white candy melt and creating ghost faces with black decorating icing or gel.

Ghost Berries

Since Valentina and Julia were mirror twins, I decided, for dessert, to bake a doll cake and place it before a mirror. You can purchase a specialty doll cake pan and a doll insert from a cake supply shop or at; or use a bundt cake or angle food cake pan and a regular doll. Try to use a doll that is smaller (shorter) than a full-sized (11 1/2″) Barbie doll, if possible, so that the waist of the doll is even with the top of the cake. If you use a taller doll, top the cake with edible flowers or silk flowers as shown in the photo below.

Her Fearful Symmetry Doll Cake

A fun beverage for this party is Foggy London Punch or Bourbon Milk Punch served in clear plastic cups with girl ghost faces. You can have your guests personalize their own beverage cup with a scary (or not so scary) ghost face.

Foggy London Punch in Ghost Cups

Book Club Resources

Ratings at the time this post was published

Goodreads: 3.23 stars (74,660 ratings)
Amazon: 3 stars (749 ratings)
LibraryThing: 3.39 stars (1,948 ratings)
My Rating: 4 stars I can’t believe the book site ratings above! I really, really liked this ghost story. It was quite creepy and disturbing – filled with family secrets, twists and surprises.

Discussion Questions

Spoiler Alert: Discussion guide may contain spoilers to the book.

1. Just as she did with time travel in The Time Traveler’s Wife, Audrey Niffenegger made the bold choice to center the story in Her Fearful Symmetry around a fantastical subject: ghosts. How does Niffenegger strive to make this supernatural occurrence believable in the novel? Do you think she succeeds? Why do you think Niffenegger is attracted to subjects like time travel and ghosts?
2. The book opens with Elspeth’s death. Why might this be significant? In Chicago, why is Jack “relieved” when he hears that Elsepth has died? How do Jack’s feelings for Elspeth foreshadow events later in the novel?
3. The narrator, in describing the physical appearance of Julia and Valentina, remarks that the twins “might have been cast as Victorian orphans in a made for TV movie.” How do the twins appear to the outside world? Why do you think Niffenegger decided to make them beautiful but fragile— “like dandelions gone to seed?”
4. Before she dies, Elspeth tries to explain to Robert the nature of her relationship with Edie. Elspeth says, “All I can say is, you haven’t got a twin, so you can’t know how it is.” How does Niffenegger depict the bonds between the two sets of twins in the novel? Compare and contrast the relationships between Elspeth and Edie and between Julia and Valentina.
5. In what ways does Valentina live up to her nickname, “Mouse,” and in what ways do her actions in the novel contradict it?Read more . . .

6. As she observes Elspeth’s funeral procession, Marijke muses that the cemetery is like “an old theater.” What does she mean? How does Highgate Cemetery come to function like a character in Her Fearful Symmetry?
7. Martin is an unusual person: a translator of obscure languages and crossword puzzle setter who also suffers from Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. Why is it important that he and Julia should become friends? What does their friendship reveal about each other?
8. “A bad thing about dying,” Elspeth writes to the twins, “is that I feel I’m being erased.” What does she mean by that? How does Elspeth seek to rectify this feeling of “being erased”? Similarly, after Marijke leaves him, Martin worries that his wife is gradually “bleaching out of his memory.” How is the issue of memory important to the characters in Her Fearful Symmetry?
9. One of the pivotal moments in the plot occurs when Robert takes Valentina on their first date. How does their sudden romantic attachment affect Julia and Valentina’s relationship? How does it affect Robert? How did you react when you realized that Robert and Valentina might become lovers, and why?
10. Why does Elspeth choose to leave her apartment to Julia and Valentina? At one point, Robert conjectures that “it’s the extravagance of the thing that appealed to her.” Do you agree? How does your opinion of Elspeth change over the course of the novel?
11. Though ghosts figure prominently in the storyline, the characters in the novel spend relatively little time asking themselves about the spiritual implications of their predicament. Why do you think that is?
12. Niffenegger depicts several long-term romantic relationships in Her Fearful Symmetry: Elspeth and Robert; Martin and Marijke; Edie and Jack; as well as Jessica and James Bates. Which, if any, of these relationships is successful, and why?
13. Many of the characters in the novel demonstrate nostalgia for things in the past: Robert with Highgate Cemetery and its history; Martin with mostly forgotten languages; Elspeth with her book collection; and, even Julia and Valentina, with their appreciation of old clothes and television shows. Why do you think Niffenegger includes so many “nostalgic” elements?
14. Niffenegger plays with the idea of “being lost” in at least two ways in the novel. Julia and Valentina are frequently lost in London. When she loses her way, Valentina begins to panic, but Julia “abandons” herself to “lostness.” Meanwhile, Robert and Elspeth experience loss as it relates to death. How do these two types of loss play out in the novel? Are they somehow related?
15. The title Her Fearful Symmetry is derived from a poem written in 1794 by William Blake, “The Tyger.” Look up the poem online, and read it. Why do you think Niffenegger chose this title? How do you think she intends for readers to understand the word “fearful”?
(Discussion Questions from Simon & Schuster)

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The Author

Audrey Niffenegger was born in 1963 in Michigan and currently resides in the Chicago area. Her Fearful Symmetry follows Audrey’s highly acclaimed debut novel, The Time Traveler’s Wife. In addition to her success as a novelist, Audrey writes shorts stories and essays and is also a visual artist with an MFA from Northwestern University. More information on Audrey Niffenegger can be found on her website.

Other Works by Author and Recommended Reading

Personal Insights, Favorite Quotes, etc…

“There was only the cemetery itself, spread out in the moonlight like a soft grey hallucination, a stony wilderness of Victorian melancholy.”

I read on Ms. Niffenegger’s website that she conducts tours at Highgate Cemetery. I would love to take that tour! Here is a link to

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