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A Man Called Ove by Fredrick Backman

a-man-called-ove Meet Ove. He’s a curmudgeon—the kind of man who points at people he dislikes as if they were burglars caught outside his bedroom window. He has staunch principles, strict routines, and a short fuse. People call him “the bitter neighbor from hell.” But must Ove be bitter just because he doesn’t walk around with a smile plastered to his face all the time?

Behind the cranky exterior there is a story and a sadness. So when one November morning a chatty young couple with two chatty young daughters move in next door and accidentally flatten Ove’s mailbox, it is the lead-in to a comical and heartwarming tale of unkempt cats, unexpected friendship, and the ancient art of backing up a U-Haul. All of which will change one cranky old man and a local residents’ association to their very foundations.

A feel-good story in the spirit of The Unlikely Pilgrimage of Harold Fry and Major Pettigrew’s Last Stand, Fredrik Backman’s novel about the angry old man next door is a thoughtful exploration of the profound impact one life has on countless others.

Atria Books (July 15, 2014)

Book Club Party Ideas


Ove was a Saab man. I love this about him. In Texas, folks feel pretty strong about their trucks – Ford, Chevy, Dodge – so I chuckled to myself every time Ove expressed his devotion to Saab. Decorations for your party can include a Saab decal, Saab A Short Story, and a Saab t-shirt.

Ove also felt strongly about vehicles in his neighborhood and his homeowners association rules So include “no driving through residential area” signs. Here are 2 signs in pdf format you can download and print out.

I also feel Cat Annoyance must be represented in some way. So I used a cat wine bottle (the riesling was pretty darn good) as a vase for a centerpiece and included a couple of handyman Ove’s tools.


Book Club Menu

Ove, a meat and potatoes guy, would love this recipe for Swedish Meatballs with Cream Gravy and Mashed Potatoes.


Jimmy’s Persian Sandwiches can be a lighter alternative for your book club party. My inspiration for these sandwiches came from Iranian immigrant Parveneh and neighbor Jimmy.  According to her daughter, Parveneh is a good cook, and  Jimmy loves sandwiches. Jimmy’s Persian Sandwiches can be cut into quarters for an amazing appetizer.


Parveneh’s young daughter brought some home baked cookies to Ove.  These Middle Eastern cookies are light, nutty and airy – subtly sweet and salty.

 Parveneh’s Persian Walnut Cookies


One of the pivotal moments of the novel occurs during Parveneh’s daughter’s birthday party. Include a birthday cake decorated for an 8 year old. I just love this yellow cake recipe from Joy The Baker.  I frosted the 3-layer cake with a basic butter cream frosting, but be sure to try Joy’s fluffy chocolate frosting (featured with her yellow cake recipe) made with Ovaltine.  It is absolutely amazing!


Book Club Resources

Ratings and Reviews

Goodreads: 4.3 stars (56,556 ratings)
Amazon: 3.7 stars (3,080 ratings)
LibraryThing: 4.3 stars (444 ratings)
My Rating: 5 stars  I LOVED this novel! I was moved on so many levels. Ove reminds me so much of two very important men in my life.
  • “A charming debut…You’ll laugh, you’ll cry, you’ll feel new sympathy for the curmudgeons in your life. You’ll also want to move to Scandinavia, where everything’s cuter.” —People
  • “If there was an award for ‘Most Charming Book of the Year,’ this first novel by a Swedish blogger-turned-overnight-sensation would win hands down.”–Booklist, starred review
  • “This charming debut novel by Backman should find a ready audience with English-language readers… hysterically funny… wry descriptions, excellent pacing… In the contest of Most Winning Combination, it would be hard to beat grumpy Ove and his hidden,generous heart.” —Kirkus Reviews)

Discussion Questions

Spoiler Alert: Discussion guide may contain spoilers to the book.

1. How does the opening scene, in which Ove attempts to purchase a computer, succinctly express the main points of Ove’s ongoing battle with the stupidities of the modern world?

2. Ove loves things that have a purpose, that are useful. How does this worldview fail him when he believes himself to be useless? How is he convinced that he can still be useful?

3. As readers, we get to know Ove slowly, with his past only being revealed piece by piece. What surprised you about Ove’s past? Why do you think the author revealed Ove’s past the way that he did?

4. We all know our own grumpy old men. How do Ove’s core values lead him to appear as such a cranky old coot, when he is in fact nothing of the sort? Which of these values do you agree or disagree with?

5. Although Ove has some major “disagreements” with the way the world turned out, there are some undeniable advantages to the modernization he finds so hollow. How do these advantages improve Ove’s life, even if he can’t admit it?
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6. Parveneh’s perspective on life, as radically different from Ove’s as it is, eventually succeeds in breaking Ove out of his shell, even if she can’t change his feelings about Saabs. How does her brash, extroverted attitude manage to somehow be both rude and helpful?

7. Ove strives to be “as little unlike his father as possible.” Although this emulation provides much of the strength that helps Ove persevere through a difficult life, it also has some disadvantages. What are some of the ways that Ove grows into a new way of thinking over the course of the book?

8. Ove is a believer in the value of routine—how can following a routine be both comforting and stultifying? How can we balance routine and spontaneity? Should we? Or is there sense in eating sausage and potatoes your whole life?

9. The truism “it takes a village to raise a child” has some resonance with A Man Called Ove. How does the eclectic cast of posers, suits, deadbeats, and teens each help Ove in their own way?

10. Although we all identify with Ove to some extent, especially by the end of the story, we certainly also have our differences with him. Which of the supporting cast (Parveneh, Jimmy, the Lanky One, Anita) did you find yourself identifying with most?

11. What did you make of Ove’s ongoing battle with the bureaucracies that persist in getting in his way? Is Ove’s true fight with the various ruling bodies, or are they stand-ins, scapegoats, for something else?

12. On page 113, after a younger Ove punches Tom, the author reflects: “A time like that comes for all men, when they choose what sort of men they want to be.” Do you agree with this sentiment, especially in this context? How does the book deal with varying ideas of masculinity?

13. On page 246, the author muses that when people don’t share sorrow, it can drive them apart. Do you agree with this? Why or why not?

14. What do you think of Ove’s relationship with the mangy cat he adopts? What does the cat allow him to express that he couldn’t otherwise say?

15. On Ove and Sonja’s trip to Spain, Ove spends his time helping the locals and fixing things. How does Ove the “hero” compare and contrast to his behavior in the rest of the book? Is that Ove’s true personality?

16. Ove and Sonja’s love story is one of the most affecting, tender parts of the book. What is the key to their romance? Why do they fit so well together?

17. Saab? Volvo? BMW? Scania?

(Discussion Questions from Simon & Schuster)

The Author

Fredrik_Backman Fredrik Backman is a Swedish columnist, blogger and writer. He is the author of My Grandmother Asked Me to Tell You She’s Sorry and A Man Called Ove.
Born: 1981 , Brännkyrka, Stockholm, Sweden
Movies: A Man Called Ove
Nominations: Goodreads Choice Awards Best Fiction
For more information on Fredrik Backman, please visit the author’s website (You may have to translate page).

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Other Notes and Comments


“You don’t fool me, darling,” she said with a playful little smile and crept into his big arms. “You’re dancing on the inside, Ove, when no one’s watching. And I’ll always love you for that. Whether you like it or not.”

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